SKILLEN FAMILY RE-UNION
ST. CAMILLUS PARISH HALL
FARRELLTON, QUEBEC
30 JULY 2005
SHARING OF MEMORIES
During the week-end of the
family reunion there were informal opportunities to reconnect and share
memories of our childhoods. One small formal group session held outside on a
warm Saturday afternoon under a sunny, clear blue sky was recorded. Gerry
McSheffrey moderated the session.
My
name is Gerry McSheffrey. I was born
in the Gatineau.
I lived for the first 17 years of my life in Venosta which is about 15 or 20
kilometers away to the north. My father (John McSheffrey) married Bernice Skillen and he farmed here.
Earlier in the day when Terry was talking about the family history he made
reference to the great Brennan’s Hill Rebellion of 1896. My grandfather
(McSheffrey) became the first mayor of Lowe following the rebellion when it was
first incorporated as a township. One of
the amusing stories about the Lowe Rebellion that I would like to share in fact
is the reason for the rebellion which occurred because there were people who
thought they were paying too many taxes. Like people today they felt they were
not getting the required services for the taxes they were paying. One of the vociferous leaders of the group
happened to be a man named Mr. Brooks. He was in a kind of ambiguous position
like most politicians today. While he led the stalwarts who were opposed to the
government and were sort of the major influence in fomenting the rebellion, he
also had the only inn at the time. When they did in fact send a group of
militia up from Ottawa
to suppress the rebellion, he wound up housing and feeding them and making a
considerable amount of money. So, I
guess in a way there are all kinds of situations in which people do well.
My
grandfather McSheffrey in fact became the first mayor of Lowe Township
because I think that he was a conciliator which was a role that he often played
in trying to bring different groups of people together. Research has been done
on the McSheffrey family. My great-grandfather settled here initially across
the river from Wakefield.
If you drive down the road from here if that’s where you are staying, on the
opposite side of the river you will see a clearing, and a very picturesque
clearing it is, and a red brick house with trees around it. That was the
original McSheffrey homestead in the Gatineau. Our history dates back to the 1850’s. The
Skillens were here before us. The good
opportunity is that they both met, at some point. What I found interesting is
that the McSheffreys managed to find such an advantageous position on the
river, below where the Skillens had settled much earlier. Normally the pattern was
that the first come got the best land closest to the river and closest to the
city, right, and they settled it accordingly.
As later arrivals came they generally had to go to the back of the seat
or whatever the case may be. I can only
surmise that because it was on the other side of the river and there was no
bridge, the land was a little less valuable since the road happened to be on
this side. So maybe it wasn’t a great advantage after all. I do know that they were the first family to
run a ferry of sorts across the river at that point and they would ferry people
and their possessions, cattle and other things. Apparently they made a substantial
income in those days from doing that. A substantial income in the 1860’s would
not have been a great sum of money, an amount that we wouldn’t think of as
being much today.
I
have said enough for now, I would like other people to just go around and talk
a little bit about your own reminiscences such as what Martin (Bishop) was
telling me today. Martin of course, originates in Thunder
Bay and when we were talking last night he mentioned coming to
visit our parents (Johnny and Bernice McSheffrey)
here in the Gatineau
and visiting us and I said that was a long, long time ago, and he immediately
said 1951. I said Oh my God you can
actually remember! Reminiscences, here
everything and anything goes. Does
anyone want to start?
Colleen Hayes: Pass it my way, I will start. Gerry:
My sister will start.
Colleen:
I’m Colleen Hayes, Colleen
McSheffrey, Gerry’s sister. This is my
older daughter (Donna Hayes). I had 4 children, two boys and two
girls. We lived in Montreal
where they grew up for 24 years and now we are mostly all in the Toronto area except for my son Blair who is in Ottawa. I remember grandparents Skillen very well. I
remember going there even when I had little children and grandma would always
have tea for them. She always had Christmas cake even in July. I don’t know how
she did this. And I remember her making
her pickles in her little summer kitchen with her apron on. I still have an apron that she had given my
mother with her embroidery that I keep as a special kind of memento and so it’s
been wonderful to see everyone here and I thank those people who thought this
up I give them a lot of credit for organizing all of this. I have 6
grandchildren, four who are fairly grown up and two younger ones. I said I lost my husband in 1998. I still
love the Gatineau
although I haven’t lived here for 40 years.
I’ll pass this to Janice now.
Gerry McSheffrey: Before you pass
it to Janice, you probably went to the school behind us, next to the church,
right? Colleen: No, I didn’t. We
went to school in Venosta at the convent and then we went to high school in
Lowe. But, my husband (Bill Hayes) went to the old school down
here. It was a big old white school that was behind where we come into the
cemetery now. But no, I didn’t go to Farrellton
School. Ron did.
I am Janice (Skillen) St- Germain. I am James Skillen’s daughter. I spent a lot
of time on our grand parent’s farm. Colleen is the oldest of the grandchildren
and I am the second oldest, so we saw a lot more and you living down here you
would know. When I was a child we lived in Sudbury
and my dad would say we are going up the Gatineau.
That was like you were giving me a million dollars and you know inside of my 68
year old heart it still beats the same way when coming up here now. It’s like I
am anxious to go and see the land because when I came to spend the summer with
my grandma I used to help her to punch down the bread in the back room (summer
kitchen) and then I’d go picking blueberries and blackberries and stuff and
grandma would say we have to be careful going up Fleury’s Hills, you know,
there are all those Frenchmen up there.
I would say but why Grandma? Oh well, she would say, the Irish are down
here and the Frenchmen are up there. The
funny thing is that almost everyone in the family married a French Canadian person. So, my grandma and I used to write and I was
sort of nicknamed after her. In 1955 before
I was married I came down to visit, (I got married in 1956) and I brought down
a picture of my husband Germain and I said look Grandma, his name is Germain
St.Germain. I said he’s a
Frenchman. She said, yeah but he is not
a bad looking one, eh? So, I thought it
was okay and I said but I can’t speak any language other than English. I never
did learn to speak French. I can remember
our grandfather too. I was 13 years old when our grandfather Skillen died and
it was very sad he died of cancer but I can remember coming on the farm and he
and Harold were out in the fields to work and grandma would give me a lunch and
let me take it out to them in the fields and there was this huge rooster.
Grandma warned me about this rooster and she said, “Now, be careful about going
across the field.” Also there was big mower; I don’t know exactly what to call it
that went on the back of the machine to cut down the hay. So I was going through the field and all of a
sudden this big wild rooster jumped on my back and threw me down and was
pecking me all over and the lunch went flying and I came that far from cutting
my arm, but I twisted my arm behind me.
So you know, grandma was such a very religious person and I am too today
but right away I got covered with holy water, she figured that would fix me up
and then they killed the rooster and we ate it that night.
I
could sit here for ten hours and tell you stories that are my very fond
memories of coming down and getting to see by aunts and uncles and my cousins
and go up to Venosta. We had a ball.
Colleen McSheffrey, I have to tell one story about grandma. She told me that
they married young and she was baking bread for the first time on her own and
it didn’t rise so she took it out to the back yard and buried it in the sand
and started all over again, but by the time that grandfather came home the
bread was rising from the heat up through the sand.
Hi, I
am Winnifred Lyons Fields and Mrs.
Skillen, Aunt Etty, was my aunt, my father’s sister.
I’m Mildred Lyons and Etty was my aunt
too. Thank you
I’m Richard Bishop. I was born and grew up
in Thunder Bay. I did not actually come to the Gatineau area until the 1990’s although I had traveled a
few times in the Ottawa
valley with my parents in the 1960’s.
Family lore has it that I was conceived up the Gatineau during a family trip so I do feel
particularly attached to it as a result.
So, our branch did live in northwestern Ontario for many decades, my
grandfather, Martin Skillen, was the
roadmaster with the Canadian Pacific Railway from Fort William to Manitoba and
I had heard from my mother ( Phoebe
Skillen Bishop) that when he had lived with my grandmother up in the Fort
William area for a decade or two, he did talk about returning to the Gatineau
particularly at retirement and my grandmother being the strong-willed woman she
was, simply said, “Well you can go but I am staying here.” So that more or less summed up their marriage.
Thanks.
My
name is Terry Skillen and my parents
were Alfred and Mary. Jim and Etty Skillen were my grandparents. I can remember coming down to the farm from
the time I was six or seven. I remember
coming down with my sister Freda and later with my sister Linda. I remember sitting in the back seat of the
car from Sudbury. I’m not sure if I always sat behind my father
but I would be pushing on the seat to make the car go faster and this went on
for three hundred miles. I can remember
that, and then we would come to Ottawa and cross the
river, and the road up here was unpaved and it was washboard all the way and
that car just shimmied all the way up here.
I remember a story that was told to me that Duplessis who was the
premiere of Quebec at the time said that there
would never be a paved road leading to Ottawa
and that accounted for that washboard road for so many years, apparently. And
yes the curves are still in it and it’s still a dangerous road. The first memories that I have of coming down
here to visit my grandparents are from around age seven. Sometimes, my dad who
was a nickel miner would get off shift at midnight and we would hop in the car
and drive all night to get down here. I
mean, you know, the quicker we got down here the better, I guess and there was
no wasting time because he only got a couple of weeks max holidays, back then
they worked 9 hrs a day, 6 days a week underground. So coming back to the good
fresh air was important. I can recall that
when we got to the farm grandpa would take Freda and me, by the hand and we
would go out for a little tour of the pig sty, the hen house and the barn. We
have a couple of pictures of that. And this was really something special for
someone who wasn’t brought up on a farm. It was just wonderful. Grandpa was at
least 6 feet tall, for me he was a very tall man and of course our grandmother
was 5 feet nothing. I’m not sure that she even hit 5’, so there was this big
difference in height but this tall man would take us out to the barn yard. I
later learned that he could relate to us as children much easier than he could
relate to adults because he was an extraordinarily shy man and I did not
appreciate that of course, I just knew my grandfather as this very friendly man
who welcomed me to the farm. I remember
that on two occasions. Then of course in
1949, when I was still 8 years old he died and unlike Janice I did not come
here for the funeral. I’m not sure if
Freda did . (Freda says yes) You did?
For some reason there was a decision made, I’m not sure how that came
about. I stayed up with my other grandparents up in Garson, so I have no memory
of grandpa’s funeral. The next memory I
have after Grandpa died in June 1949 is that dad gave up mining, he never was
at heart a miner, I mean he never wanted to go down underground and we moved
from Garson to Carleton Place
at the end of July. I believe that the only reason that he went up there is
that he had taken a mechanic’s course in Montreal and he graduated from the
course in 1930, he came back to the Gatineau and there was a fellow called Willy McCaffrey who had a store over
here on the highway and Willie had a farm and his farm, I think, was on the
other side of the river as well. There
is story about my father that I was told by Aunt Doris (Clarke). My father was
out on the river in a boat and maybe he was crossing from one side of the river
to the other, and he lost an oar and then the second one. I’m not sure what happened, or how he got the
boat back to shore. Maybe it was
Willie’s prayers. Willie was a healer
and those from around here will know that and I remember being brought into
Willie’s house by my Dad, because Willie and Dad were close and we have
pictures of Willie coming up to visit us at the old farmhouse when we came down
from Sudbury. I remember walking into
this house of Willie’s and it was like another world. It was almost scary. He had mementos in there, things that had
been given to him by people he had healed.
I remember to this day, a white shirt, and he told me that the man was
an American who had come up and Willie had done what he did and it was usually
sprinkling holy water and saying some prayers and the man left and went back
home and crosses appeared on his shirt in the area of the body, I‘m not sure if
it was cancer of the lung or just exactly what it was, but I remember seeing
that shirt and I was impressed. I mean
these crosses were not just all over the
shirt, they were just in a certain place and it was ….. And he could
really do this. That is another story
that whole thing about Willy. But, I
remember coming up in July and Janice you were either here or you came up
around the same time, and I can remember
sitting ….grandma had a couple of lawn chairs out along the side of the
entrance to the house. I remember
sitting there in the evenings with Janice and grandma, and grandpa had been
dead maybe a month and I can remember how solemn it felt to me, because grandpa
was gone and grandma looked sad, and I’m 9 and I don’t know what to do, except
to just experience this. It was that
difference. And then things changed at
the farm, because Harold took over the farming and my experiences…and then I
spent a lot of time on the farm. Not
every summer but many summers I would come up to work on the farm, for two to
three weeks, or whatever. Because I
remember doing the hay and milking cows, I remember Harold could milk probably
12 cows and I could milk 3, and he would give me the easy ones. It was hard work for a town boy. I’ll stop for now. There will be other opportunities…
My
name is Martin Bishop. I just want to pick up something you said
about your grandfather. I remember my
grandfather, his wake when he died in 1948, and at that time of course people
were all brought home even in the city to be waked. Not when my grandmother died in 1964, with
dozens of grandchildren, and all their children and grandchildren, we couldn’t
possibly find a house big enough to fit everybody in, so she had to be waked at
the parlor. I remember something I
actually witnessed at my grandfather’s wake, because my uncle, his son was a
priest and of course we knew every priest from everywhere and every nun and
there were lots of nuns up in the city at that time. About every half an hour, a group of nuns
maybe ten, would come and say the rosary. I remember we were sitting over in
the kitchen, and I was only 6 at the time and as one group of nuns left, one of
the priests sitting in the kitchen got up and looked out the window and said, “Here
are another damn lot of them.” He went and locked the door on them. And my grandfather, going back to something
about what Richard said, you know, he did have this fondness for the land even
though he worked most of his life for the railway, and that’s why he acquired
that property I spoke of. (Terry asks:
Upsalla?) You know it was way up
there. It was actually very good
agricultural land even though it was in the shield. There was a whole pocket - he knew which was good land and which
wasn’t, so it was run as a farm, but of course, he had to pay somebody to run
it. And of course he had all of those
sons that could go up in the summer to help him. He was also one of those peoples who could
find peoples’ wells, a diviner. That was
his hobby. He ran around finding
wells. Other than that he was a very
quiet, gentle, shy soft spoken man. Of
course, my grandmother never gave him a chance to say much, which I suppose was
the reason. But these are a few of my
memories of my grandfather Martin John.
Hi, I
am Muriel Inglis Hickey. My father was Martin Hickey and my grandmother was Letitia Mary Ann Skillen. I
grew up here. I was born and baptized and made my first sacraments in this
church (St. Camillus) and we lived right directly across the river from Aunt
Etty as we called her, Aunt Etty and Uncle Jim.
Harold used to wave a handkerchief at us across the way and so we
visited quite frequently back and forth. We called her Aunt Etty and when Terry
spoke about the chairs, I could picture those wooden chairs and there were
always hollyhocks all around the house. Going further up to Martindale was where
Letitia Skillen was. Grandma was a great one for flowers and
grandma had peonies, her front yard was filled with peonies and she always had
a long white apron on and she led you into the pantry to the crock where she
had tea biscuits and cream when we got up there and she was a very strong and
stubborn lady which is where I see a lot of where the Skillens got their stubbornness from and the
Hickeys as well. But she was a great
lady and we were very blessed to grow up with all of them. I’ll pass this on to my sister Loretta who
has a few stories about Harold. We could
tell lots about Harold.
I am Loretta Hickey Ebersole. I am a few
years older than Muriel. We grew up
across the river from Aunt Etty and Uncle Jim and Dad would take me down, I was
probably around eight, nine, or ten and he would take me across on the boat to
Aunt Etty’s where I would spend a couple of weeks when they were doing the hay
and all that. I used to go over there and go up on the hay racks with
Harold. Aunt Etty … she was such a
kind, very quiet lady. I don’t remember too much of Uncle Jim because I was
young…I’m pretty sure he was tall but of course beside Aunt Etty anybody would
be tall. He was tall and very soft, very
soft-spoken and he wouldn’t say too much but they would be very careful with me
and I spent lots of summers there. Maybe
one summer, it might have been Terry, because there was some strange person that
I didn’t know and I felt sort of cheated because I had to share the wagon with
this other boy, but it could have been Terry, but it was so long ago. I am pretty proud to say that I came from up
here and that I am related to the Skillens.
Thank you
Hi,
my name is Lori Clarke. I am Shirley Skillen’s daughter. Just sitting here and listening to you older
generation speaking, not disrespectfully, but my life has been somewhat like
yours. I ran a horse farm for 10 years
so I know very much of your experience of haying. It’s not fun.
During my childhood, when I was younger, my grandfather had a stroke,
but I do remember him coming to the cottage with my Mom and he loved to sit on
the upper part of our cottage and just watch the boats go by and whatnot. Aunt
Janice and her two sons David and Donald spent an awful lot of time. Dave and Donald and I had a great time at
the cottage playing on the tractor and having fun. The rest of my cousins were too far away for
me to get to know, so over the years I have gotten to know them. But I have just found that the history I have
heard so far it’s amazing how it has affected my life without me even knowing
it. So, thank you.
Hi, I
am Glenda Wilmot, Jim Skillen’s
youngest daughter and Janice’s sister. I was quite young when I was at the farm
but I do have some nice memories of my grandma.
I remember sitting in her porch smelling the butter. It just seemed like heaven in there, it was
such a beautiful quiet place to be and hearing about my grandfather, I didn’t
know him because he died the year before I was born, but my Dad was a lot like
his Dad. My Dad was very quiet, a very
gentle man and it sounds like he was like his Dad. I have memories of hearing music and fiddles,
like I was quite young. I would like to
know who these fiddlers were that I remember.
(Others reply – my Dad, Alfred, Jim Clarke, Donald, Jim played the
fiddle, and Charlie played the spoons).
Well, that’s what I remember.
(Terry interjects: Johnny McSheffrey sang and told stories). It gave me a Gaelic heart hearing that music
so young. So, I am looking forwarding to
hearing some of that music while I am here.
So I will pass this on.
I am Freda Kantor, Alfred Skillen’s
daughter. Well, Terry said most of what I would remember as well. I remember coming up to the farm and milking
the cows and finding that such fun sitting on that little stool, and then they
would squirt warm milk into your mouth (laughter) and it was just so much fun.
I remember sitting on top of a cow, I don’t know how we managed to do it, and
that was sort of fun too, going between the fences. I remember being at the old
farmhouse and going down to the well to get water and of course never having
experienced any of that I think that was a really special privilege because
otherwise I have always lived in a town and I think our children and
grandchildren didn’t really have that experience because they weren’t
associated with anyone that ever had a farm. It was a really a special
privilege to have had all of those experiences without really realizing that it
was just part of life. So, I can
remember getting the water from the well, going into the chicken coop with
grandma and shooing away the chickens and getting the eggs underneath. I don’t
remember the pig sty really. And seeing the horses and sitting on the old wagon,
when they collected the hay, throwing up the hay, you know, being all part of
that, that was very exciting and it was just a wonderful time to be here. It’s interesting how you can be around people
and not really pay attention to them.
You know grandpa, I don’t remember much about him. I just remember that
he was very quiet and silent and you have better memories than I do. I just remember that he was very tall and I
think that his genes came down to our son because our son is 6’ 7 ½ and he
played on the national volleyball team for five years. It was great for him and
he never minded being tall and he played basketball as well, but so I attribute
his genes to grandpa. Bill, my
husband is 6’1”. I’m 5’6”. How did we
produce this son who is 6’ 7 ½, but anyway, there he is! So I think his genes
came from grandpa. I don’t know where grandpa got his height either, at that
time most men were short, I think or much shorter anyway. (Martin
Bishop: My grandfather was 6’ as well.)
Freda: Was he, I guess all
that family had tall genes. And Grandma, I remember her well, and the smell of
the butter, I remember that too, and the preserves, how you put it on your
bread and the old stove in the kitchen and how in the summer time you cooked in
the summer kitchen and didn’t use your own kitchen. I can remember sleeping upstairs in the
bedroom and hearing the crows waking you up in the morning. That was a really special memory, just being
there. It was so silent, it was just
really beautiful. So, I am just grateful
to these people who worked so hard so we could have a better life. They really
did work hard. I mean work on the farm to even these days, I find to be hard
and those people who are still farming, it’s wonderful that they are so
dedicated. So, I am grateful to these
ancestors of mine and I admire them and I am so happy that I was part of their
family. So Marcel, are you going to say
something?
My
name is Marcel Vachon. I wasn’t here in my younger years because I
was in Ottawa. My father had died sometime late in the 30’s
and my mother died somewhat after in 1932, I believe. And in 1938, I was out of school and I didn’t
know what I was going to do and anyway I happened to be on Somerset &
Preston (in Ottawa) at the time and I heard this young fellow say, there is a
priest up in the Gatineau hills that is going to hire somebody. So, as soon as
I heard that he was going to hire somebody, I hopped on it and I went out to
the Christian Brothers house that was on the corner to inquire about the
priest’s name and I met him and I told him what I had heard and he said I was
right that he wanted to hire someone, because I need somebody to look after the
farm for me. So, I inquired what kind of farm he had and he
said I don’t have a farm as such but I have a big piece of land and I need
somebody to cut the grass and then pick up the dirt and so on and so forth and
to just stick around. Do you have any
place to live and I said I don’t. Anyhow, I took the train that evening and I ended
up in Wakefield
and met the priest there again and he was surprised to see me. He said, I didn’t think you would come. Well, why not, I’m out of a job and I don’t
have a place to live. He says, I’ll tell
you what, you can come up to my place and I have a place for you to sleep for
the night and if you like it enough to stay there and work for me, you’ve got
yourself a job. And so I stayed there
overnight and then the next morning I got up and spoke to the priest and he
told me his name and that was Father McGregor and I guess you all know Father
McGregor. He said stay around if you want and do what I ask you to do and
things will be okay. And so I did.
I
started cutting the grass and trimming around the trees and so on and so
forth. And I stayed for exactly one year,
to be truthful and I thought I had better get out of here and find myself a
better job so I got up and took the train and there was nobody there for me to
see. I took the train from Hull to Ottawa and I met
somebody from Aylmer, there in Hull.
I heard about that job on the Gatineau
highway someplace, where they were looking for a maintenance man. I said well, I am the man for that, he wants
me. So, I went back. (Terry, how did you meet Aunt Lola?) Well, its coming somewhere along the way, I
met Lola. And we decided to get married and we had seven children together. And
I joined the Navy and I went overseas and served in the Atlantic
Ocean on the HMCS Waskasui. I came out of the Navy three years
later and I came back up here.
Hi,
my name is Ken Vachon. Marcel is my
Dad and Lola is my mom. My childhood memories are… I don’t remember Grandpa, I
was born in 1949. I remember coming up
with the family, it was always a big treat to squish 5 or 6 kids at that time
without car seats. I think at one time
we had a Morris. My mother always hated
that Morris minor or something and we would squish in. But when you talk about waking up in the
farmhouse, I remember the clock in the hall ticking and the cars coming up the
hill. You could hear them from about a mile and they would zip by and the sound
would drift off into the distance. And I
remember the warnings about the rooster or Uncle Harold would give me a big
stick because we would go down to the river fishing. That was the biggest treat. We always wanted
to come up here because Dad always went fishing Sunday afternoon and we always
had a big treat going down to the river or somewhere fishing anyway. But, I remember, to go to the river, Uncle
Harold would give us a big stick to keep the young bulls away or the cattle or
whatever, it would be a novelty to see these kids walking across these field,
you know. But that’s my memories and I
know Mom & Dad had great feelings about the area and it was like a second
home for my Dad, definitely. Those are my
memories and of my grandmother coming to stay with us that was a treat
too. I just can’t think of anything
else, so I’ll just pass it on.
My
name is Susan Mahon. I was married to Donny
Skillen and we had four children together.
I didn’t have the privilege of meeting his grandparents. I remember a lot of family gatherings at the
old farmhouse. We lived at the old
farmhouse for about 23 years and we raised our children there and Dawn is one
of them, she’s my youngest daughter. I
remember that Donald (Skillen Sr.) always
wanted a grandson and I had three daughters, he had three granddaughters, and I
got pregnant for the fourth time and he passed away before he got to meet his
grandson. So that was kind of a sad memory
for us, but Lucille just enjoyed all her grandchildren. I remember mostly Harold and Loretta because
they had cottages. And we would visit
them a lot with Sherry. The fondest
memory I have is going to Loretta’s house for supper and never leaving
empty-handed. That was something that I
thought about, every time we go we always leave with something, she always had
a present for us, so it was really, really special. And I don’t know if anybody heard about our
house being haunted? It is known as the
haunted house. Well, I didn’t see any ghost.
But, I remember joining a girl’s baseball team, or going out into the
community and being asked, “Where do you live?”
And I’d say that I just live down the road in the Skillen house. Someone
would ask, “The haunted house?” That was
the biggest thing going, eh. I think the
rumor was that there was an Uncle Pat and he played a piano and he was sent
away to an old age home, this is what I think I heard over the years, he didn’t
like the old-age home, so he would leave in the middle of the night and he
would come when the house was empty and play the piano and people would hear
the piano playing and think it was haunted. But it was really Uncle Pat. And I think the piano is here, if I am not
mistaken, I think it was given to the church here in Farrellton. (Someone says:
It’s in the hall.) Oh, it’s in the hall. Yeah, well there you go. I’ll pass on.
Hi,
I’m Loretta Skillen, married to
Charles Sauvé. We were married in St.
Camillus Church in 1946. My husband is in a nursing home and has been there for
9 years. I have two children, Judy and
Gary. Gary is not here to-day. I have three
grandchildren and one great-granddaughter.
I have a lot of memories of the Gatineau. On the farm the one thing that I always hated
was milking the cows. We had to do this before we went to school and walk three
miles to school. Mildred, Winnie and I
used to pick berries in the summertime.
We would be gone all day and we didn’t have hats to wear then. We would leave at 8:00 in the morning and
pick berries in our bare feet till late in the afternoon. We would bring
sandwiches with us. (Susan That’s
another memory I have, I never went blueberry picking in my life and Aunt
Loretta taught me when I met Donny). Loretta: I remember that we would go up
to Kazabazua to pick blueberries in August of every year with mother and dad. I have a lot of memories about going to Stagburn School.
Whoever got there first had to put on the fire and sometimes it would be
30 below zero. I remember when I was 6
years old I got stuck in the snow and it took three or four to pull me
out. It was that deep. A good memory I had is of a Mr. Plunkett who used
to pick us up, Harold and I, and drive us the odd time to Lowe School. I left for the big city when I was seventeen.
Judy (Sauvé) Meldrum
I was
very close to my grandmother Skillen. Grandma’s
was like my second home from the time I was about 6 to about the time she
died. I was 13 when she died. I was up here every weekend and every summer
for the entire summer. Up here we did
everything from berry picking to visiting all the in-laws. I saw Susan and
Donny and we used to have good parties at my Aunt Doris’ cottage. I remember
Janice singing so beautifully and Terry, your dad playing the violin and Uncle
Donald playing the guitar I believe. My Dad used to play the spoons really well.
I guess it was the French spoons. And we
had one heck of a wing-ding. We had great rhythm. The kids ran wild. I tell you it was a great place. The only thing that I remember that was traumatic
was when I was staying up with my Aunt Doris one weekend. I went to cut her
grass and she had a lawn with slopes. I went down the first slope and lost my
footing. My left foot went right into the lawn mower and I almost lost my big
toe and my second toe. Luckily Uncle Harold and Aunt Teresa were across the way
at Grandma’s. They saw me so they rushed
over. I’ll never forget it, aunt Teresa
put a white flag out the car window.
Uncle Harold must have drove two hundred miles an hour down that
Gatineau highway and we made it to the hospital, but they couldn’t help me….(tape
ended and had to be reversed, lost some of Judy’s story). And the Vachons, we
had a lot of good times with Gail and Debbie, Uncle Marcel and Kenny. We always used to go strawberry picking
together. We had great fun! Lots of good memories! That’s about all I can
remember, a lot of good times and one traumatic time, but everything worked out
just fine.
My
name is Debbie Holtom and I am the
daughter of Marcel Vachon and Lola Agnes Skillen. One of my greatest memories is we would come
up to grandma’s house almost every other Sunday and I guess I always call
it grandma’s house because as Glenda
said, we’re almost the same age, we’re only a month apart I just found out, we
never got to know our grandfather. So, the whole gang got pushed into the car
and away we went and we had a great time up here, playing and the guys went
fishing and the girls, I don’t know what we did, went swimming or something,
and then we would always play with Barb (Clarke) and Judy (Sauvé) and we went
picking berries and everything and had the cows chase us across the
fields. I remember spending a week with
grandma when I was 11 or 12 and we did a lot of things and every day we wrote
things downs in this journal she kept and I would love to able to find where
that journal is and I know it was in the house that Harold had and I don’t know
where it went after that and there were a lot of neat things in that book. Some other great memories of coming up to the
Gatineau were, as a kid going up to Venosta and spending time at Uncle
Johnnie’s and Aunt Bernice’s and I remember Aunt Bernice showing me how to get
eggs out of the hen house and in particular in getting to know the boys because
the boys were older, so, it’s just always been a great time up here and what
can I say, coming to Grandma’s house was terrific. And, we did have a lot of fun, Barbara and
Judy and I and my sister we would do crazy things sometimes but it was just a
part of getting together, especially in the summertime.
Hello,
my name is Donna Hayes and I am
Colleen McSheffrey’s daughter, Gerry McSheffrey’s niece and so of course Bernice Skillen was my
grandmother. I spent a lot of time up
here on the McSheffrey farm and stuff when I was younger. My grandfather (Johnny McSheffrey) died when I was only eight so that changed
things a lot, but before that we certainly loved to come here. It’s great for me to come back. I live in Toronto now. I want to tell you one story about Henrietta
Skillen, my great-grandmother which none of you can possibly have heard
before. Later in her life before she
died she came to see us at our house and Gerry was working at the time for the
Experimental Farm, yes, the National Research Counsel and had gotten a big huge
beaker. He had the top cut off so we could have goldfish in this beaker and it
was sitting on…. So, the perspective of
the beaker was quite distorted. Grandma Skillen was sitting watching as my
goldfish came around to the side of the beaker and she turned to my mother and
said “How did you ever get that big fish into that little hole?” (Much
laughter). It just cracked us all
up. So there is a story that I am sure
is new to you.
Hi, I
am Gordon
Skillen and I am Jim Skillen’s youngest son and my sister
Janice was married to her husband before I was even born, so it was one of
those cold winter nights in Sudbury. I was born in January. It’s always cold in Sudbury?
That’s why I left actually. When
I turned sixteen I got on my thumb and I moved out west and I have never been
back, other than for funerals and stuff like this and for visits. The only memory that I have of Grandma
Skillen is that she came home when we were living in Garson and I was five at
the time and she was home for my Mom and Dad’s twenty-fifth wedding anniversary
and then one time we came up here and I remember sleeping in the house and when
it rained you could hear the rain falling on the roof and they collected it in
a barrel or something like that and I remember going to Aunt Loretta’s cottage
in behind there and there was cow poop everywhere, in-between the house and you
always had to dance, is that right? It
wasn’t just a bad memory, eh? There were
pies in your house and cow pies outside of your house. So, not too many
memories, but it is fascinating because I have always been interested in the
history of the Skillen’s and it’s almost like we are a special people or
something in comparison to the other 5 billion people on the planet. Thank you to Terry and all the other people
who put all the time and effort into organizing this for us.
Gerry McSheffrey: Yeah, I just want to come back to the story of the
piano playing and Uncle Pat, which I assume was Uncle Pat Lyons, right? He was a
very important part of my life as well, at different points in time. There is a hotel down in Wakefield called the Black Sheep and in some
parts of the family, Uncle Pat was the black sheep. I realize now, looking back that Pat was sort
of like one of those wonderful hippies before hippies became popular. You know, he lived by his own rules. I can remember as a teenager that he was just
incredibly exciting because he didn’t pay any attention much to what anybody
else did or said. I thought that was a
wonderful way to live your life if you can, at least up to a certain point. You know, don’t pay too much attention to
what other people do. I don’t know if
this was before or after the piano playing but he came at one point, it was one
of these strange kinds of ideas like the odd fellows, long before the odd
fellows, the odd couple got on TV, right.
He came, Pat had been everywhere. In his early life he had been a
carpenter and worked on the west coast, in Washington and traveled around the world and
all over the place. And he told stories,
wonderful interesting stories. And of
course, growing up in Venosta, where I think was eleven or twelve years old
before I got to Ottawa believe it or not, when you think about how the world
has changed, these stories just absolutely entranced me, you know, and it
probably in the end resulted in my living in Africa for three or four years and
in the United States and having this love for travel because he told these
really interesting stories. But, he was
also considered by our parents, as being a little bit dangerous, particularly
my mother. My father was pretty tolerant of anybody. But my mother thought that Pat might be a
negative influence around us kids. Pat
on certain cases like this one, when we were teenagers, you know, would maybe
slip us a beer, when nobody was looking.
Pat taught me to play poker when I was thirteen, I think. And I also remember that he came to live in
this house next to our farm with another elderly gentleman whose name was
George Miles. And George was just the
opposite side of Pat. I mean talk about
the odd couple. George had never been
anywhere. I don’t think he ever left Venosta in his entire life. He never married, he was entirely solitary and
this sort of wonderful, exciting, interesting kind of old drifter who’d been
everywhere winds up living and to some extent helping this older man, George,
who was in ill health and nursing him too and referring to him as the old man
even though the difference in their age was only probably about a year or two,
if I can remember, right. It was also
very poignant because it was one of the first times that I was ever asked to
identify whether somebody was actually dead or not. Occasionally I used to bring them the
newspaper after we finished with it and Pat was an inveterate reader as well,
he absolutely loved to read and he would stay up late into the night, even with
bad lighting, and he would read and read and read. And so I went one morning to bring the
newspaper and he said, I can’t remember how old I might have been at that
point, maybe 12 or 13, something like that.
And he said I want you to come in and see something. I said “What do you
want me to see?” Well, he said I think old
George may have gone west, but I’m not sure.
And so indeed I had to identify or verify whether old George had gone
west. And it was my first time that I
actually had to verify that somebody was actually dead, but again he was one of
these really intriguing, interesting characters, you know. He knew everything about everything and I
used to think that most of the people around him, it made me a lot more
sensitive, didn’t really understand him either, just how wonderful and
interesting the old guy was.
Occasionally, he might have had a drink too many, you know, but God I
could forgive him everything because he was such an important part of my
education. And I’m somebody that has
gone on and done a couple of advanced degrees.
I spent a good deal of my life teaching university. But you know, I learned as much I think from
Pat as I did all the rest of it about life and the other kinds of things and
the things he made me interested in, because he didn’t and he was kind of like
that somebody who was in the community, but he was also outside it and just a
little bit bigger than it. I hope indeed
there is a ghost of his playing the piano someplace.
Colleen McSheffrey: Where we are sitting are the grounds where the church
picnics were and Phyllis my sister and I
would be here and there was always a beautiful doll on raffle, I guess Winnie
and Mildred would remember, I don’t know if they will or not. Pat would always buy us tickets for the
raffle. We always wanted to get that doll, and we never did. And he used to buy us Orange Crush, sure and
an ice cream cone and he would always say, “Are you going to the hop?” when we
got older, that was a dance, like there was a dance in the hall, eh.
Janice St-Germain: I’d like to say something about Uncle Pat. We were told the same thing, well, kind of
stay away from Uncle Pat, he’s different.
But one time, my husband and I went with grandma to see him and his
expression was, “Did you bring me a sputnik?” He always wanted a beer and he
called a beer a sputnik. So we brought
him a few. And then he said to grandma, “Etty,
would you want a cup of tea?” So grandma
looks at us sideways and she says to me, “Well I don’t think he washes his
cups.” So I said, well we could have a
cup of tea anyways. But, he was so
eccentric living in this funny house still up at Lyons Lake,
when he lived in that house.
Gerry McSheffrey: He realized that he was a little suspect compared to our
parents, our parents were more proper or whatever. He had this expression as he slipped us a
beer, and occasionally I would go get him a beer or two, as well, but he would
always say “Mums the word”. It was sort of our little conspiracy with him.
Janice St. Germain: I want to say one more thing about grandma. In 1957, Germain, my husband and I were
married one year, so we came to the Gatineau. So Germain went to fish in the river and he
caught two little fish about that long.
He just brought them up and threw them in the rain barrel in the back. So a little while later grandma calls and she
says “Lunch is ready and she had cooked four potatoes about this big and those
two little wee fish and four carrots or something and she had that on the
table. So my husband says, “Is that all
we are having grandma?” “Oh, that’s
enough to eat.” It wasn’t, eh? And, then she had made a cake, and because
she was alone, she would make a cake and it would be there for a long
time. So, she cut the cake and put it on
the table and you couldn’t bite it, it had gone stale, eh. So my husband says, “Oh, I don’t want to
insult your grandmother, but I can’t eat the cake. I said, the dog is there, so he threw it under
the table, and the dog didn’t like it.
So, my husband says after, “My God, how did your grandmother ever feed
her family”? I never forgot that. We laughed and laughed. So I said, we’re going up to the hill, we are
going to buy some food. So we came back
with all kinds of food. She said, “Are
we having company?” Well, I wasn’t
making fun of grandma, she was alone and when you’re alone you don’t cook. But, I’ll never forget that cake, the dog
took sniffs of it.
Martin Bishop: I would just like to mention something about someone I
consider like a lost Skillen brother. John, the one who married here, what was
his first wife’s name, do you remember?
(Terry Skillen interjects: She was a Lyons, John Alexander and Mary Lyons, she was called Molly.) They ended up in Thunder Bay.
I think that he worked for the railway too and when she died, he then
remarried and then had two children by his second wife, who I knew as Aunt
Rose, and after two years, he died, leaving her with the five children. The children from the Lyons mother were eventually sent back here
and I have no idea what happened to them, where they are or anything about
them. (Terry interjects: Grandma took
care of one or two of them, and grandma’s mother took care of Faustina. Mary seems to have spent time between both
houses.) Martin asks “Are they still
around?” Terry, “No they are
deceased. I tried to contact member’s of
their families to invite them to the reunion, but was not able to find
them.) Martin continues. The two younger children, there was a boy
Vincent and a girl, Bernice. Vincent is
dead, he eventually ended up in Calgary and they had no children, he and his
wife. Now, Bernice is still living in
Thunder Bay, she is in her eighties and she is not too well at this time. She was a great buddy of my mother’s (Phoebe
Skillen) because they were first cousins and Bernice not having that many
Skillen relatives although she had Rooney relatives on her mother’s side. She
married a man named René Gravel, another French connection and they had four
children and the eldest son and most of his children live still in Thunder Bay
and her other children, Denise lives in the states and Paulette lives out west
and the youngest Maurice lives, I think, in Yellowknife or the North West Territories
and that rounds off the Skillen family.
I thought I should mention him.
Terry Skillen: ‘Thank you, Martin”.
There are a couple of things that have triggered memories. Talking about food, I remember that after
Harold left the farm, Johnny Skillen ran the farm for a year or so. He was the
youngest child of John and Mary better known as Molly. Molly was a sister of
Henrietta Lyons who married my grandfather James Francis. I believe that Molly
died giving birth to Johnny or shortly after. That was probably around
1918. I’ve got a letter written by your
grandfather (Martin John Skillen) to my grandfather Jim (James Francis Skillen)
telling Jim that John had died in the hospital and Martin was there at his
bedside when he died and he went on to talk about that and he then said I’m
making a plea, please send something up to help the widow. She had five children. The youngest one was
only four months old when John was fatally injured. This lady was in desperate straights. Now I guess what happened was that Molly’s
mother Mary Lyons and Jim and Henrietta made a decision to bring the children
from the first marriage back to the Gatineau and that would have helped Rose
for then she would not have had to raise all five children.
I remember Johnny took over the farm for a
season or more after Harold left to live in Ottawa. I can remember that it was during the period
of time when I was coming down here and working on the farm during the summers,
perhaps in the summer of 1955 when I was 15.
I had worked for Harold. Johnny
had some kind of an arrangement with grandma where he was independent and he
was supposed to run the farm, I guess. I
was too young to really understand the arrangement. He was supposed to run the farm and he hired
me to help me and he was supposed to feed me.
And grandma had nothing to do with this arrangement. (Someone asks, “What did you have to
eat?). Well, not much. Laughter, laughter….I will tell you, I was
here, I can’t remember how long it was.
I can’t remember if it was one or two weeks and we ate the same thing
all the time. And it was bread and honey
and I just couldn’t take any more bread and honey. I was getting hungry. The same thing every day, day in and day
out. I remember pleading with my mother
to bring food because she would come down, I guess and visit. Maybe Mom and Dad came down on the weekends
to visit. I can’t really remember how
long I was there. But I don’t think that
I lasted long, I was starving. Not that
I didn’t want to be here, I enjoyed being here.
But maybe Johnny didn’t have an appreciation for a teenager’s appetite,
because I needed more food. Janice adds,
I came down to visit and you said “Oh my God Janice am I ever glad that you are
here! Maybe now we will get more food”. I don’t know what the arrangement was,
whether grandma was saying to Johnny, Look it you are supposed to look after
the boy, it’s not my responsibility to be feeding him. You are supposed to be
feeding him. Maybe that was the
arrangement that she made with Johnny, you are looking after the farm.
Terry Skillen: It is interesting to hear about the
ghost. I had heard that story, long
before Pat died or was in a nursing home and maybe playing the piano. Someone else was playing that piano before
Pat did. Someone intervenes, “That story
goes way back” Blame it on the Hickeys.
So it is a story that goes way back.
Gerald
McSheffrey adds, “I heard stories as well. One of them was in fact in seems to be that
my father telling me that the way the house was situated… inaudible….headlights
shining on the house. (Someone in the background speaks of a body buried on the
farm) Terry: When I was young I
remember either Harold or my father, showing me a place behind the old house,
in the field or on the edge of the field where someone in the family had been
buried. I was told that grandpa would stop briefly as he passed the spot and
say a prayer. In my memory the burial site was protected in some way. I’m not sure if it was on a wee bit of a
knoll or not. Yes there was a body there and I was told whose body it was, but
I can’t remember who it was. In doing
the family tree, I have been unable to account for the death and burial of Mary
Kerns. I suspected that it might have been her who was buried there. Mary Kerns was married to Francis, the man
who came over here from Ireland. Mary died some years before Francis but she is
not buried in the cemetery at Farrellton. I don’t know where Mary is
buried. I am wondering who is buried in
the field, and since we are telling stories, I’ll just add this one. As I mentioned Francis was a Protestant and
Mary was a Catholic. They married and they came to Canada from Ireland with two
children. I mentioned this morning that the boys were not baptized. I have not found evidence that the boys were
baptized in the Catholic Church, now if I check some of the Protestant churches
around here, I may find the boys were baptized in a Protestant church. How come Mary is not buried in the cemetery
at Farrellton? Francis is buried there
and he died after her. He died in
1894. So, I’m just wondering if Francis
said, I’m a Protestant and I’m not getting buried in that Catholic cemetery, so
I am burying her at home. In fact that
is not true. When Mary died the Skillen
farm was in Wakefield Township, just down the highway where the Kelly farm is
now. The place we know as the old
Skillen farm was the O’Rourke farm in Lowe Township, but less than a mile
apart. Mary Skillen would not have been
buried on the O’Rourke farm in 1871 or shortly thereafter, because she died sometime
between 1871 and 1881. In making
contacts with many Skillen all across Canada, I came across someone living in
Manitoba who told me that her ancestor was a Skillen and lived up here in the
Gatineau, and that he was a twin and he
was born in 1836 around the same time as our John and James were born. His first name was different, maybe Thomas.
He was a Protestant and he married a French Canadian up here and they had a child
and both the mother and child died in childbirth. The twin brother Donald married a Bridget,
her last name is unknown, a Catholic. The family believes that Donald moved to
the East coast and that Thomas left and went to Manitoba and he married and
raised another family out there. I have
no proof of another Skillen being up here in the Gatineau, and if a Skillen had
come up the Gatineau, I would think that it is highly probable that our Skillen
family would have known about these other Skillen especially someone who came
over from Ireland and was a Protestant, as all of the Skillen were. I am just wondering, whether it’s Mary over
there in the field, or maybe one of those other Skillen. I would like to track that down. Unfortunately, there are fewer of us who are
older and could remember the name of that person
Martin Skillen: Did you people here have stories about the Will-O-Wisps
and the old Irish legends when you were young?
Terry: The only thing that I know
was something written in the Gatineau Historical Society Journal. There is a
story that after Wilfred died, a banshee was heard. Wilfred died in 1922, he drowned in the
Gatineau River, and some of the neighbours said that they heard this banshee and
also that a strange black dog, which is an Irish indication of death, crossed
the property. It was a dog unknown to
the family, and this would indicate the presence of the supernatural. Did you hear about that? Loretta Ebersole: All I know is that when I used to go over there
with Harold, there was no one living in the house, but there were beds and we
would take our lunch in and eat it in the old house, and this day, I was
probably 8 or 9 and I had laid down to have a sleep, I guess being a kid, and I
had taken my shoes off, and I woke up and there was nobody in the house and I
was petrified, whatever scared me I don’t know.
I ran down to the field to Harold and he asked me “Where are your
shoes?” and I said I left them in the house and he said Go back and get
them. And I said I wouldn’t, for some
reason I would not go back and didn’t know why.
And he always told me the stories about the wagons stopping at that
particular spot and they would stop, don’t ask me why. But Harold always told me that there was a
body there and I thought he was teasing me. But after I grew up and I heard the
stories, whether he was going on what his father told him, I don’t know. Terry:
I was told that grandpa would stop there and say a prayer, sometimes, he would
pay his respects. Some else says: He
must have known. Terry: Sure, he must have known who it was and that story was
passed down to me by my father and I saw that spot and I was actually brought
to that spot but I don’t know who it was.
Martin Skillen says: Right, there’s the old Irish story that at
the time of death, you appeared to certain other people. It is supposed to have happened in the case
of my grandfather. He died in Thunder
Bay, his property was about 100 miles
west, and a neighbor, she looked out her window, this day and she saw my
grandfather crossing the field, in front of her yard, and he waved to her and
that she was going to town the next day (which was Thunder Bay) on the train,
and she stopped in and was to talking to one of my family’s friend and she said
“What was Martin doing up at Upsalla and I thought he was not supposed to come
up and he was there yesterday. No, he
said, he died yesterday. Grandpa used to
tell us all these stories at night about all of the lights and the goblins
coming through the forest and of course it scared the living daylights out of
us. Of course, after I grew up, I
realized why he was doing that, because of the house up in the country, there
is nothing between that and the North Pole, only wilderness. Because people that wandered off a hundred
yards into the forest, were never heard of again, because they got completely
lost and I think that is the way he had of scaring us from wandering off in the
forest by ourselves.
Gerald
McSheffrey: All of the descendants when they moved away
from this area and then came back as grandchildren and other kinds of things,
as someone growing up here, it was different kind of perspective: Our world was self-contained. Right, I
mentioned before that I had never been to Ottawa until was eleven or twelve,
and I remember, I think was I was thirteen, going to a football game, and I can
just think how naïve we were about a few things. I was not sure how to get there and Phyllis
my older sister told me that I was to go to Hull and get on the bus there and
it would probably get me to the football game and it was pretty unclear. So, I got on this bus and there seemed to be
a whole lot of people on it, it was a street car actually, and being from the
country and knowing nothing about city life, I just assumed that all of the
people were going to the foot ball game and sure enough it was the Bank Street
car and we did go to Lansdowne Park and they all got off, at least a lot of
them, and I got off as well and made it to that football game. I would like to ask Aunt Loretta an
interesting kind of thing, because the other thing that I remember, you mentioned
leaving home at 17, which I did as well, because that was part of our
experience, because once you got up to a certain age, which in my case, it was
getting through high school, and even in my generation not a lot of people
finished high school, but then you had to make a life or have a career or
whatever. I’m intrigued in asking you,
what was it like? Loretta says: We all went to live with Doris (Skillen) Clarke;
we stayed with her and had to pay a little rent or something. Gerry:
I remember that sense of community.
When I first went to Ottawa to work and naturally, it was like the
Newfoundlanders in Toronto, you just all hung out together. And so there were all sorts of people that
came from the Gatineau and so also the drinking laws were very relaxed in
Quebec as opposed to Ontario, it was always impossible in Ottawa to get a drink
in Ottawa unless you really were 21. The
access to fake ID’S was very difficult and occasionally I would have somebody
smuggle me into the By Town Inn, possibly to get a beer. Most times it did not work. So we would all go to Hull together, where the
drinking age was much more relaxed and even if you didn’t look to be 18, nobody
particularly cared. Because one of my
impressions about growing up here which
was so interesting, I was saying that yesterday coming up in the car, was that
there was such a strong sense of community that people could live virtually
without the police or anything else. In
my life, there were police in Maniwaki and police in Hull, right and nobody in
between. So whatever happened, in essence,
got deal with, in some kind of way, other than simply, you just couldn’t call
the police. Under those rare occasions,
when there was a murder or something or other, generally people looked after
whatever they did look after. But it was
this sort of system, like Loretta said, you know, I remember Doris in our life
as well, which is really part of that kind of thing. Because when my mother was sick in the
hospital, where did we go? We went to
Doris’, and when she got out of the hospital we went to Doris’ and somebody
would arrange to drive her. There was
this mutual support system. Now in our lives, which are lived in different
places and other kinds of things, does not exist. There was that incredible strong sense of
community, and a strong sense of family and that kind of obligations. I always thought that it must have been really
difficult for Doris to have all these country bumpkin cousins. I also remember
…Terry: I also stayed with Doris. Gerald:
I know everybody did. I always thought they thought, My God, there must be
an endless numbers of them, always coming here. And they would be expected
to. When we lived in Africa, it was
interesting, because it was a similar kind of thing, expect, it still exists in
a way, because of the extended families.
And basically there, relatives come and visit you and they stay for
months and you can’t really ask them to leave. Honestly, you can’t. You just hoped that eventually they will
leave. There was a sense of obligation
that you did that kind of thing, and the way that you paid to go to the city
was to try to find somebody there that would help to support you or that would
give you some kind of assistance and let you work in. For the younger kids here, it was quite
amazing. I remember having no
preparation whatsoever for anything.
When I first went to Ottawa to look for a job, I had no idea how to get
a job or what kind of job I could do. I learned that you went to the Manpower
Centre, now called the Unemployment Insurance Commission at that time, and they
would ship you around to different places for interviews. Of course, we had no proper preparation for
job interviews either, so I had no idea what the proper thing to say was in a
job interview, because I did not know what on earth they were looking for. And my first job was entirely an accident
that I got a job because I had no particular qualifications for the job. I wound up working at the National Research
Council, and I went to school at Low and we had a science program but our
science program consisted of basically writing notes. We didn’t have a Lab at all in the school,
until the year after I left. And so I
had not experience whatsoever with Lab equipment and so I went to work for
Doctor J Sanford Hart, who was doing studies in animal physiology and cold
acclimatization. I was there for a few
days, right, and he would ask me to set up, or get this elaborate equipment and
put it in his lab and set it up. And I
of course I did not even know the names of this stuff, and he was sort of look
at me, and he was a person who hardly ever spoke much, and he would sort of look at me and say, You
don’t seem to know much about labs. And
I felt like saying, I don’t a damn thing about any of this stuff, and I
realized that my education for here somewhat limited in that respect. But eventually being Irish and being from the
Gatineau, we managed to actually survive thanks to a wonderful old Scotch guy
who decided that would take me under his arm and teach me everything in a short
period of time. He was sort of the
equivalent of good old Pat Lyons, who I referred to earlier. And you realize how important those people
are in your life because the take an interest in you and tell you things.
Terry: Speaking of people who help you I have a
couple of stories about Harold. I spent a few summers working with Harold on
the farm and I remember one time when we were returning to the house after
milking the cows. We were coming back to Grandma’s house for supper after
milking the cows. Harold had a plug of tobacco.
I was about twelve or thirteen. And Harold suggested that I try a chew. He gives me a little and I started chewing
it. We were walking up the hill on the path along the barb wire fence. I lost
consciousness. I’m on the side of this
hill just below Grandma’s house and Harold is shaking me awake and I am really
dopey and feeling very sick.
Another summer, he tied the tails of two cows
together, that was not too difficult, they were passive. There they were tied together and they had
this tug of war and one of the cows lost part of its tail. That got him into trouble with grandma.
Grandpa
had just bought the red truck before he passed away. Then after grandpa died, Harold took over the
farm and Harold got possession of the red truck. Harold took a cow into Hull to
the slaughter house and I went with him.
This was going to be quite an adventure, getting that cow into the truck
and then getting it off.
I
remember the last summer I worked on the farm for Harold. I was thirteen. Diane was just a toddler. I
would have been about fourteen. Elvis
Presley was very popular. He had three hits that summer. They may have been,
Don’t Be Cruel, Blue Suede Shoes and You Ain’t Nothing but a Hound Dog. I am
dating myself. Anyway there was an old
stray dog hanging around the farm. I came up there with a pup. I was delivering papers and one of my
customers had given me a puppy and it was very young. The same day I come up to the farm, Harold and
Theresa are sitting on the porch of the old house, Diane is there sort of
crawling along and I’m on the grass and the little pup is there with me. The
big stray dog comes and grabs the pup in its mouth and with just one shake the
pup's neck was broken and it died. I remember
feeling so sad. I was also angry, that that dog would do this to my pup. I walked off and I sulked, you know. There
was another dog there, called Pal. Pal
was on the farm for a long time, I remember with Pal, you would just whistle
and he would go and get the cows and he would bring them back. Well Pal died during Johnny’s time on the
farm. Johnny buried Pal in the field and
put a cross up. Johnny didn’t spell very
well and on the cross he put “Here lies poor Pal” and he spelled it “Here lys
por pal”. It was so neat, it was sort of sweet, that he did that and I remember
the spelling was incorrect. Ken Vachon: It was a fairly big dog,
when we got into the laneway, my Dad would have to get out of the car and grab
the dog because it would jump up. Terry:
I remember that, it was a brown dog, but I don’t think that was the one
that did my little pup in. Ken: I remember Uncle Johnny, in the morning he
would get up and start the fire about 4:30, 5:00 o’clock and go on top of the
hill and start yelling Kobos and the dog would run down and the cows would be
starting up the trail.
Gerald
McSheffrey: I would like to thank everybody for sharing.